Saying no to jobs so that I can stay with family

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Posted 17 January 2013 - 11:36 AM

winnie, on 17 January 2013 - 07:54 AM, said:

Few years ago I moved to another country for a job. It was a big thing cuz I couldn't find any jobs in my hometown. This place had plenty of career possibilities and it was easy to change jobs.
At first it was great but I had no family or friends there. The culture shock, stress at work, different system, low infrastructure standards and services, stress outside, stress living with strangers, loneliness, homesickness etc. eventually got to me and I decided to move home. It was a disaster and I'm not a strong person like other guys who can live alone in a foreign country. How old were you when you got that first job abroad? 22? My cousin didn’t know a Japanese word when he was 22. He even didn’t travel by plane one time before he got his export labor contract in Japan. No friend, no family, unfamiliar with food, cultures, languages, people... everything new there. But now, he’s been working in Japan for 4 years, earning much money and even sending it to support his family. My aunt tells me he has no intent to return yet, and he may marry a Japanese girl and settle down for good then.

The matter is not whether you’re a strong guy to live alone and adapt yourself to new environments in a completely new place where you never set foot before, but whether or not you want to take risk and accept a challenge to strive for a brighter future.

winnie, on 17 January 2013 - 07:54 AM, said:

So I'm back where I started. Hard to find good jobs in my hometown but at least I have my family. Just remember that your family won’t live with you forever. Your siblings will have their own family and your parents will be gone (sorry, I don’t mean to say that), and you’ll be alone again. What will you do then? winnie, on 17 January 2013 - 07:54 AM, said:

I still apply and get offered great jobs, but they are in other countries so I turn them down.
Am I doing the right thing?No one will have the right to judge what you’ve done is right or wrong, but yourself. If you’re really happy with what you’ve got: doing chores, living with family, fearing to take risk at a new adventure life in a faraway area... then it’s ok, don’t look back at any decision you’ve made before and never regret or live in regret from now on. At least, you’ll be responsible for your own choice. No one will be blamed for that.

But now if we advise you to take that chance again in a place where you’re lonely and isolated, what's gonna happen to you may be more terrible than your first job experience oversea when you’re not self-motivated or enthusiastic enough to expose yourself to this venture. Another failure is imminent for sure. More terribly, no one can do anything to fix a wrong option you make because of strangers' advices... Edited by KittyLam, 17 January 2013 - 11:40 AM.

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