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If I don't like someone I don't even want them moving in or living with them. If there are real personality differences OR disagreements that clash too often or just
can't really seem to be worked around ... then I rather not bother ... rather not bother having them move in or not live with them
But if you have to live with them ... and you can't seem to get along ... then I would recommend distancing yourself ... like just keep it at a distance between the
two of you
plus not only is it bad enough that I don't / wouldn't want anyone moving in that I wouldn't like or get along with but if they don't pay rent THEN THERE'S NO NO
NO FUCKIN' WAY I want them moving in ... it's like seriously get out if you won't pay the rent. I already need a place to live and I DON'T need anyone
disturbing my peace or people I don't like or trust ... so if they're NOT EVEN going to pay rent ... like seriously leave, I don't need anyone like that
especially IF I can't trust them or seriously don't like them. In the very least the two most important things for me are that they can 1) cover their share of rent
and 2) I have to be able to live in peace ... and if I feel their presence and / or manners don't do that for me ... then they need to leave
Who would I prefer living with most? maybe a future girlfriend ... although that's quite far off from now ... or some kind of best friend, and to give a very brief
description at the least of WHAT THE PERSON SHOULD BE LIKE: friendly, honest, genuine, likeable, respectful, sincere, and trustworthy, and have many
things in common ... at least in terms of interests and hobbies, and be able to understand and accept my big picture and outlook of things
and why is that important? because those are some of the most important core values I'm looking for in people, without fully needing "to have to communicate
things all the time ... or at least more often on a non-verbal basis" ... like what I mean is "I know, or feel ... I can trust this person ... without feeling the need
to have to talk to them about every little thing" ...
and they understand, or are supposed to understand, the things that are really important to me and RESPECT that
I'm sort of an introvert ... and there's something people have to understand about us ... and people in general. Everyone ... especially introverts ... have
what's called personal space (mentally, physically, emotionally and relationships) ... and within these things are boundaries, limits that people outside only
have to an extent ... if at all. Unless people are really close to you ... people usually don't have much "close range" within another person's personal space
and before you try to "get smart" about it ... not everyone is that naiave ... so don't try anything
like you can't just think "you're entitled to be someone's friend" ... no you're not, there is no such thing. People being your friends are a choice ... and
not an entitlement. does someone from outside "have a right to just hop into my life and decide for me to be my friend?" NO they don't .... I make that
decision ... I'm the one who can decide to choose that or not ... especially when they're people I didn't seek out myself ... and rather more introduced to me
through work or knowing someone else ... but did not neccessarily "choose to seek them out to be my friend ... or at least not from the beginning ... if at all"
now I believe at this point ... we should all understand what I mean a bit more by that definition or idea of things ... that's how I look at it.
Again: no one is entitled to be your friend ... no matter how you met them ... you decide whether they are or not ... and how much of your personal space you
allow or not. But if you want a reasonable expectation .... don't think and expect that you can share very little and get alot in return, it usually doesn't work
that way and if someone seems to try doing that ... they can't be trusted or just want to take advantage of things
Unfortunately ... I knew some people like that ... including in the past.
the whole issue of rent ... goes so much farther than just paying rent. You really have to be able to get along OR at least pay the rent ... and be able to
trust who you're living with ... and IF "you don't have much of a choice" ... make it as temporary as possible meaning you'll be looking for a new place to live
as soon as possible or within reasonable time ... and distance yourself from them (don't talk or share too much with them ... especially if they don't do the same
with you or for you .. fair enough, if not more)
look at it this way .... if another squirrel invades another squirrel's burrow ... probably perhaps not invited ... and they just want to get in for the nuts ... and
give / contribute little back ... odds are, the other squirrel wants to kick out the invader. the invader tried to get in their personal space and the other squirrel
has every right to chase and kick them out
Don't get me wrong ... it's not that I don't want to try to like people or make friends ... I do ... but when it comes to living with them .... that could possibly be
a whole another thing. Anyone could have friends and how much you share is decided by you ... but when you have to live with them ... and IF you're not
not comfortable sharing living space with them ... then it becomes an issue of personal issue and that's a whole another thing apart from just being friends
so you can dislike this person all you want but at the same time maybe there are some things they don't like about you ... and maybe they think you're a
hypocrite in some ways ... like don't think, expect or assume that you may be the only one who has something to complain about or dislike
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